5 Mistakes Young Men Make Before Marriage



The success of every marriage is determined by the resolve of the individuals involved, what they know, and their willingness to implement. For the young man who intends to walk that path sooner or later, here are five proven ways not to attempt marriage.

Make unrealistic impression: It is natural for a young man to want to impress his lady. You want to let her see how refined you are; give her some nice treat so she can see how ‘right’ you are for her. It has something to do with the ego – yes, we all have some. Beyond that, a good impression helps to plane the path to a woman’s heart. But remember, when you make an impression you must have to live up to it. Never exude what you are not made of. A lady will only come to resent you the moment they get to realize you’re a fraud. Yes – even after she’s become your wife!


Go on a spending spree: Some men just cannot resist the urge to spend their way into a woman’s heart. Perhaps you think you are just not spending enough and that is why things are not flowing. Though a woman will appreciate it if you can provide for her, and possibly the family when you get to build one together, but do not splash the cash you do not have. Any woman that follows your cash will crash your heart once it stops to flow. A woman would rather know and marry a broke bloke than be with one who owned nothing he’d ever given her. Forget the ubiquitous materialistic tendencies you see, they are soon dumped for common sense when the time is right.


Keep it cool all the time: Yes, you are a gentle man – that’s ok. What about the other side? Everyone has one, so don’t pretend you haven’t. When you hide your temperament and how you truly feel about things, you will be setting up a time bomb. The thing about dating is that while we are it, we send out our best representatives: you send yours, she sends hers. However, in marriage the real persons clamber out of the works and will stay out 24/7. So let her know the ugly side, because if she married the nice guy and then the not-so-nice guy creeps out later on, there will be  lots of trouble. If she got to meeting him much earlier, there will be a little less trouble.



Peep into every pant and hope to change in a snap: If there is any change you want to make at the testosterone level you’ll need to start, preferably, a year or two before getting married. So many guys make the mistake of trying to effect such change after their wedding date, and you must know that such a change takes a little bit of getting used to.  So for that singular reason they mess up a lot of good things in their new life. Since marriage is a fix between two people alone, you might want to start with going on steady with her all alone, getting used a single item on the menu, before tying your life to hers. If she is not enough while dating she will never be enough in marriage.

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Don’t talk about the future: when you get married the future will suddenly cease to be about you, your fancies and impulses. It will stop to be about those lone, crazy or complicated dreams of yours. This is because marriage entwines your destiny with another’s – and not just yours and hers but that of the kids that will result from such union, too. So don’t wait to get married before you discuss the future. It is important that you know if she is going your direction in life, because is she isn’t then a space will either not be enough or will be too hot for both of you.
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