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Age is But Number

Age is the number of years between birth and death. Experience is the sum of lessons – well or badly –learned. It is easiest to assume that experience is proportional to age, only it isn’t. One could be elderly and still plain. The War Against the Virus (The Ultimate Collection of Tips and Tricks to Help You Thrive During COVID-19 Pandemic) eBook + FREE Audiobook Buy Now  With a wider exposure, a younger man will have more tales than an elderly one who is confined to a certain space, a simple culture and a lot of mental limitation. And with more trials, failures and successes; the young would have more useful offers to make. One of the greatest mistakes of Africa is the false notion that people would have more to offer simply because they are old. Actually, one may have more to offer in any given area because they have dedication in such area and not necessarily a long time but quality time. A man can father a child and irredeemably fail at being Dad even though ...

Why It Is Wrong For Kids To Their Teachers Auntie or Uncle

Growing up in the eighties and nineties, teachers where generally addressed as ‘teacher’. And, yes, at some point it was ‘master’ or ‘Mr. A’ and miss or Mrs. B, as it may have applied, but somewhere along the line all that vanished. One cannot say for sure when, but this phenomenon fashioned and championed by, I think, the burgeoning private schools in Nigeria prevailed, and the dwindling public schools eagerly toed in line as the government establishment lost its value system. Animated Graphics Firesale Upsell Pack - PLR It is a subtle, seemingly well-intended gesture that is quickly translated to respect for elders, but one that realistically amounts to mis-education in all appropriate senses. How do you make a child call total strangers ‘uncle’ and ‘auntie’ in schools of all places –  the very  first place where they are expected to be properly educated? Also read: Need for vibrant opposition When you address any individual as such, they must be related to ...

Relationship: How to change your spouse

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One of the most difficult undertakings one can attempt in a relationship is to venture into changing the individuality of one’s partner; not only is this soul-sapping, it could be the very reason that relationship will meet an un-desirous end. Except one wants to live in perpetual frustration, they should not venture into that changing their partner – at least not directly. This is not to say that people do not change, they do. But people change out of conviction on things that are in line with their inner beliefs. People change because they do not want to relearn certain lessons of life. People change for greater purpose, when their soul is rightly touched. Some change could also be out of emulation. People are most likely to change because of how you live around them. And since people are most averse to coercive or manipulative antics, it is better to be gently persuasive, otherwise resentment would be stirred up, or outright pretense activated for those that may bene...

Ben's Diary (1)

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Dozie and I were still laughing over  Patricia’s remarks about four guys like us hanging out all by themselves every weekend’s nights, that there was something ‘not straight’ about it. Darlington was going to say we should leave without Goke and his languid ass. Then everyone suddenly went hush. She had what it took to stop any man in his tracks and she knew it. We must all have seen her at the same. “Hi.” She said to Darlington. Darlington had an enviable gift: they all talk to him first; even if there were a million of us. “Helloo beauty, what can we do you for?” His ladies’ man smile beamed, and his right hand instinctively reached for his collar, twitching the tie as he stood up. He possibly forgot he was only the visitor in our office. “Stephanie, this way,” Patricia called at the young lady. “Oh, hi Pat,” the beauty didn’t seem to have noticed Patricia’s presence earlier. She also seemed genuinely relieved and waved Darlington down, “I was going to ask of,” she ...

Does Love Work Over Distance?

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                           “Distance is not barrier to things of the spirit.” Love is spiritual. It is an experience that permeates the body (physical), and the soul (spiritual); therefore, distance should not be a barrier to love. When two people are genuinely in love, they operate on the same frequency. Their thoughts are often in synch. Sometimes they share a dream. There are times when one will pick up a phone to dial the other only for the other’s call to come in, perhaps because they’re on the same thread of thoughts or feelings. There are also times when one wants to say a thing and the other voices the exact words intended by the other or they may even utter the words in unison as if it were planned. Out of sight may mean an absence of the body physical body, but does that explain spiritual consequences, like soul tie?  As explained above, a soul can be tied to the other. Two indi...

Need For A Vibrant Opposition

One would be fair to conclude that the real reason for different political parties in a democracy is because there are diverse points of views, different perceptions to governance, and ultimately, there’s supposed be freedom of choice of association, therefore it it’s completely uncivil to demand that an individual or a group abandon their convictions for another’s, even if that one is their host. In a more saner clime, people convince – not just with facts – but palpable co urse of action. The peoples' follower-ship are won. In a democracy, an election is won or lost – the process does not end there! Democracy is a two-pronged approach to governance; the party in power is checked by the ones in opposition. So, losing an election does not necessarily mean you are out of the system. While you may lose the presidency, you may have a majority in the house. And even if that does not happen, constructive and issue-based criticism can win you the people – it is about the people, isn’...

Padded Beauty

It must be the lensed eyes, Or the lightened teeth – Oh it could be lashes you pick from your shirt; But she’s got the beauty of a doll. Ah – it’s not the silicon beneath It must be the warmth of the remnant, remember? So take a step forward, another back – swing with care. You’ve got the cutest in the hall. Do not wake with the dawn. Pick out the Peruvian strands from the pillow. Bask in the fragrance she'd left behind. Then go on to see her next post on Snapchat. © Jude Ifeme