Relationship: How to change your spouse


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One of the most difficult undertakings one can attempt in a relationship is to venture into changing the individuality of one’s partner; not only is this soul-sapping, it could be the very reason that relationship will meet an un-desirous end. Except one wants to live in perpetual frustration, they should not venture into that changing their partner – at least not directly.

This is not to say that people do not change, they do. But people change out of conviction on things that are in line with their inner beliefs. People change because they do not want to relearn certain lessons of life. People change for greater purpose, when their soul is rightly touched. Some change could also be out of emulation.

People are most likely to change because of how you live around them. And since people are most averse to coercive or manipulative antics, it is better to be gently persuasive, otherwise resentment would be stirred up, or outright pretense activated for those that may benefit from it. The worst situation a relationship ever experience is when a partner resolves to pretending as a way of avoiding confrontation.

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Never put your partner in a position where they’ll have to mirror what you want to see rather than who they are. Do not let them learn how to give you some false satisfaction. For when the fuel a relationship runs on is counterfeit, the joy will be false and short-lived. The inevitable destination is the rocks.

Rather than change your partner’s nature, you should instead focus on supporting them in their chosen endeavor and learn to correct them only where necessary. This will help summon the right spirit that will subsequently allow them to create that room essential for healthy cohabitation. Relationship is actually about creating such toxic free environment for two and the lot that may follow.
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However, if you must change your partner, you must first start by living that change. You must be seen as an embodiment of that which you desire or utter. You do not necessarily need to preach it. Naturally they will see how beneficial the energy you carry is, and since they’re all about your shared happiness they will, at their own pace, compliment your efforts. 




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