Why Not Sex

It is by every means a wonderful experience. From the magic arousal to the rush of pleasurable sensations which ushers you into to the act, till you hit the higher heavens of sensual climax; it is a journey that you would desire to span into eternity. However, something happens. It stops. You realize you have given away something so special. You feel lost, guilty. This journey isn’t going to be a long one after all.
But that is not the end. If you are doing it for the first time or the hundredth, probably it is with that special someone in your life, mostly for the woman. You are doing it because you want him to be happy, you want him to know you appreciate all the wonderful things he’s done and bought you; and what again? You love him! You are dead wrong! Because man is by nature a sexual conqueror; he would do everything, including give the Trojan horse, to achieve his aims. If love is what you want, he fakes love to get his sex!
It would also dawn on you that from the moment ‘you give it’, something happens to the balance of your relationship. You find yourself doing all the hard toil to make the union work. And if it by chance crashes, you will be the most beaten, because you got nothing while you wanted love, and he wanted sex and got it!
Hi guys, don’t get me all wrong; I am just being honest here. But if you think I am crashing all the parties, maybe you should answer this one, honestly: why is it that we tend to hold in the highest regard that woman who refuses to yield, Why is she that one we always want to take to the mama’s???
Sex though is a very powerful tool which can be of great use, its soul-binding significance in a loving marriage can not be underestimated. But every relationship that is built on mere sex is bound to crash someday when the sexual communication fails or even fluctuates, as it always would. This sooner than later happens in most relationships (check divorce statistics), because sex is a rush of chemistry, and chemicals don’t remain active all of the times.
So, why not sex? I would answer with this question: why build your future on something that is only reactionary? Getting to knowing and understanding the individual, and loving them for the person inside happens to be the better alternative. If you get the same in return, consider yourself blessed.
J.Ifeme

Comments

  1. hmm. am going to disaree with u a bit here. wen between couples, i believe, goes beyond d girl giving it & d man getting it. it really is abt sharing. anyone who has a distorted understanding of sex i.e. getting it 4 his own pleasure, will find such an attitude following him even after he has married dis girl dat refused him & he took 2 mama. everyone really needs 2 understand something: dat d decisions of today affects 2moro. 4 d girls 'giving out' sex, as 4 d guys 'collecting' sex

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  2. I agree yet disagree. I think certain men really do hold the unyielding woman in the highest regard BUT to some other men, it doesn't matter. Some people's relationship starts off with a hot night of sex (which I would never condone, but...) then it turns into something else. The probability of this happening is slim, I know. Oh well.

    Love your blog. I'll be back for sure.

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