ON Cheating

One of the many mysteries of our behaviour as humans is the almost constant tendency to betray the trust of someone we have pledged our faithfulness and love.
The question is: why would any married person still seek sexual satisfaction outside matrimony? Is it that we stop trusting, or begin to take trust less seriously than we initially did? Or is that we marry that one we love and later find them less loveable as time rubs on the feelings?

Much has been said about chemistry; how it is important to marry someone with whom we make sexual connection, and how that would mould a strong bond in the union.
There are also beliefs that getting married to someone we are physically attracted to would produce a long and strong partnership, as the couple would find it appealing to be in company, but the fact remains that even such seemingly strong interactions have also given birth to infidelity.

Whether it done because a partner is no longer loved, to get even with an erring lover, or because one cannot stand that nonperforming person for the rest of their life – not to mention doing it for the spark of fun. It still comes down to the same harm, cheating.

Irrespective of gender inclination, seemingly logical explanation of personal circumstances and self exonerations, the heartbreaking pain of betrayal remains the same to those that have been cheated. And often leads to irreparable damage on trust and love, and future cohabitation. The embittered partner is most likely to remain resentful even after forgiveness has been pleaded.

But in spite of the natural tendencies to deviate and our susceptibility to the raging hormones which we are made of, the human temperament recognizes the will of decision. Perhaps we should not stop at marrying whom we love, but we should instead continue to love whom we marry. Give ourselves the challenge of caring for them, in spite of all, and respecting them in our heart, soul, and with our body.

Jude Ifeme