The Most Difficult Part of Letting Go

The most difficult part of letting go is not the tears that are shed, not the pains the heart may be going through, but the coming to terms with the fact that someone you hold so dear does not, or has stopped feeling the same way about you, the knowing that things will never be as you once knew them.
At this point you are prone to reflections of the good times that were once shared, open to regrets of sacrifices and the much you had given up for their sake and that of the union, and then you surrender to the surge of painful contemplations. There will always be blames whether on you or on them, but the most essential point is that they have preferred someone else to you, and have left. And in spite of your good intentions, your love, your strength, you find yourself only too powerless to stop them.
Sometimes the urge to hold on, which normally stems from prevailing sense of insecurity, can be so overwhelming that you begin to devise desperate measures to have them back, make costly moves that would in the end exacerbate an already unstable state of your mind, bury yourself in a world of your own bitterness. Some quickly attribute such actions to love, but in reality those would be mere craves for the attachment that once was, and more often, they lead to more mistakes.
Some will believe that love is giving without receiving; some will accept that love is blind, and some will argue that love is limitless. In as much as all can describe love, what they do not put in focus is the constraint of our being; the human have limits. No matter who you are, sooner or later you will reach your patience end.
Though love can not be truly defined by any single individual’s or a couple’s experience, or have any real yardstick, but what is certain is that no amount of love from one person in a relationship can make up for lack of it in the other. Any one-sided relationship would only result in mental torture, if not bodily pain for those who pivot such.
The most difficult part of letting go is the realisation that someone you cherish would soon be in the arms of another, and they would be happy while you sulk. But if you love them, wouldn’t happiness be the best you could wish? You wish the best not just because you love, but because your best wishes will also set you free.
Letting go can put you in a prison-for-one, or set you free to world of greens and sunshine, but the decision is up to you. The truth is that your ex has found life with you less fulfilling and has made a choice to be happy. What about you?
Fight the truth and you will lose.



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