The Ways of Lie
Recently I made a fire with a stick of match – a tiny yellowish flame that was almost adorable but was meant to burn out a heap of old papers. Within a few minutes I had a crisis with the huge fire created by that tiny flame. The fire did do the job of burning my old, unwanted papers but went further into some dry woods by the corner. Indeed, like you might guess, I had a lot of trouble putting it out.
While some will lie without compunction, others will only do so when the cost of facing the truth is foreseen to be too great to bear. But there are always those who will bask in what is widely called white lie. Basically, this consists of half truths and make-believes; creating of false impressions even without words, presenting ones dreams as though they were reality, brazen embellishments of the truths.
However, no one was ever born that way and most chronic liars may admit they started quite modestly, like toying with the truth – to avoid little embarrassments, or simply trying to impress. The ways of lie may be more than a few but there is a certainty to their end – disillusionment, loss of self worth, not to mention the unenviable reputation it brings. A single lie could wreck years of friendship, break a rock solid relationship, breach a worthy business trust, and devastate a marriage.
The build up to this end is often innocuous – mostly starting from a single (perceived) harmless lie that needs to be backed-up and the back needs to be backed-up. Soon it becomes a complex and serial plot, hence spiraling out of control. A little white lie hence becomes a vicious stream of dark lies.
And once at this point, one will find they are wondering how they crossed the line, because there isn’t really a line. Oftentimes the temptation to re-strategize is strong – to take yet another seemingly harmless path of lie out of the pool of lies, but like that little flame that became a raging fire, the best bet would be to stop the beast lest it stops you. Stop and wipe the slate clean. Try the path of truth. Damn the consequences
Though even honesty has it dynamics, for instance, one may choose to be reticent, prevaricate or hold tightly to confidentiality when faced with on person but pour their heart out when faced with another, but honesty often wins in the long run.
©2010
J.Ifeme
Visit http://straigtalk.blogspot.com
While some will lie without compunction, others will only do so when the cost of facing the truth is foreseen to be too great to bear. But there are always those who will bask in what is widely called white lie. Basically, this consists of half truths and make-believes; creating of false impressions even without words, presenting ones dreams as though they were reality, brazen embellishments of the truths.
However, no one was ever born that way and most chronic liars may admit they started quite modestly, like toying with the truth – to avoid little embarrassments, or simply trying to impress. The ways of lie may be more than a few but there is a certainty to their end – disillusionment, loss of self worth, not to mention the unenviable reputation it brings. A single lie could wreck years of friendship, break a rock solid relationship, breach a worthy business trust, and devastate a marriage.
The build up to this end is often innocuous – mostly starting from a single (perceived) harmless lie that needs to be backed-up and the back needs to be backed-up. Soon it becomes a complex and serial plot, hence spiraling out of control. A little white lie hence becomes a vicious stream of dark lies.
And once at this point, one will find they are wondering how they crossed the line, because there isn’t really a line. Oftentimes the temptation to re-strategize is strong – to take yet another seemingly harmless path of lie out of the pool of lies, but like that little flame that became a raging fire, the best bet would be to stop the beast lest it stops you. Stop and wipe the slate clean. Try the path of truth. Damn the consequences
Though even honesty has it dynamics, for instance, one may choose to be reticent, prevaricate or hold tightly to confidentiality when faced with on person but pour their heart out when faced with another, but honesty often wins in the long run.
©2010
J.Ifeme
Visit http://straigtalk.blogspot.com
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